No matter what machinery you’re packing in your underpants, chances are, you’ll probably enjoy a butt plug if you give it a chance. Here you’ll read on how to use a butt plug safely so you can have maximum enjoyment!
Butt Plugs for Men and Women!
What is a Butt Plug?
If you’re a beginner with using butt plugs, there is a chance that you might not even know exactly what it is or how to use a butt plug!
I’ll hold your hand and walk you through the steps you’ll want to take when using a butt plug. It can be a simple as “put it in and take it out when you don’t want it in anymore.” If that’s your butt plug strategy, then you’re awesome! For some people, there might be more to it though.
What is a butt plug for?
What are any of our sex toys for? A butt plug is inserted into your anus because it feels good for both men and women!
For women, it’s often associated with a “full” feeling
The rectum shares a wall with the vagina. You can put your finger in one hole and definitely feel what’s going on in the other hole. You can feel a toy in your vagina with your fingers in your rectum and visa versa. Because these two areas are connected by just a thin (albeit extremely strong) wall, sensations are often passed back and forth.
For men, there is that same feeling of “fullness” that women experience but they also have the added bonus of the prostate gland. While the butt plug isn’t necessarily giving you that tingly, I-could-almost-cum feeling, it’s certainly pleasurable.
What’s up (your) Butt?
For both men and women, the anatomy of the anus and rectum are the same.
Anus = Butt Hole.
There are two sphincters, or muscles, that control whether waste material gets evacuated from your body. Your rectum is where the feces resides directly before it gets expelled through your anus.If you stick a clean finger up into your anus, you’ll probably feel a tight band of muscles clenching onto your finger for dear life. These are your anal sphincter muscles. Honestly, sometimes they’re your best friend for pleasure, and sometimes you just want to get past that to be free and clear into your rectum.
The anal sphincters are extremely packed with nerve endings. This is both a good and a bad thing. It means that they are very sensitive to massage and pressure and pleasurable sensations. It also means that it can be a fine line between pleasure and pain when navigating the anal sphincters. When you go too fast or push your body into something that it is unaccustomed to, it can hurt!
If you’re having trouble diving into anal play because of the sensation that you have to poop, this is the area that causes you to have that feeling.
The The rectum itself also has a bunch of nerve endings. It’s actually an extremely vascular area (meaning it has a lot of blood vessels). This is why you’ve heard of people ingesting alcohol through their bums to get more drunk more quickly. Spoiler, if you do this, you can very very easily get alcohol poisoning and die.
Literally, don’t ever do this.
The rectum ends at a 90 degree bend into your colon. With experience and practice, it is possible to insert toys past your rectum and into your colon but if you’re new to the sport, don’t try this right away because there’s a good chance you’ll injure yourself.
Your rectum and anus aren’t poop warehouses, so there shouldn’t really be any waste material there most of the time. When you are about to have a bowel movement, feces will move from your colon and into your rectum to be expelled via the anus.
Anatomy of a Butt Plug
A standard butt plug has three different parts that will affect how it feels, how comfortable it will be, and how much pleasure you’ll get out of it.
This is the part that will be sitting in your rectum. Depending on your preference and experience, you may want a wider or narrower bulb. Generally speaking, the length isn’t the main factor here because this isn’t a thrusting toy. Girth is what is important. You want it to be big enough to give you that full feeling but not too big so that it is painful.
The neck sits in your anal sphincter. Remember the muscles that contract like crazy, have a huge amount of nerve endings and (sometimes) can give you that “I’ve gotta poop” feeling? Yeah. For someone just getting into the hobby of butt stuff, you will definitely want a neck that’s long and skinny to avoid that uncomfortable feeling.
Here’s the part of the butt plug that prevents you from becoming an emergency room statistic. Yes, many people end up in the ER because they’ve inserted something into their bums without a flared base and it’s gotten stuck up there. Does it really happen? Absolutely. The base is something you will also want to consider depending on how you’ll be using your butt plug. If you’re just looking to use a butt plug during sexy times, you shouldn’t have to worry too much about the shape of the base. If you’ll be doing some long term wear, however, then definitely try to get a base with a rectangular shape. The reason? You want it to sit comfortably in your butt crack and not stick out or chafe your ass cheeks.
Materials to Look for in A Butt Plug
In general, I try to advocate safe body materials for all sex toys. I say “try” because we all know that it can be hard with some of the “real” feeling materials that are available today.
With anal toys, however, there’s no negotiation on material.
Things that go in my own butt are made from non-porous materials and can be sterilized. What this boils down to is we only use silicone, glass, or stainless steel butt toys.
Because the Mister and I both like butt plugs, we definitely have traded toys before. I don’t want his butt germs in my butt! Seriously though, we sterilize our anal toys because they can come in contact with fecal matter. Glass, silicone, or stainless steel can all be sterilized easily.
Having used a certain type of “jellie crystal” butt plugs in the past, I will ask that you avoid them at all costs. I don’t care how many users on Adam&Eve say they’re great because they’re so soft. These jelly butt toys are gross because they obviously aren’t getting sterilized between uses, they discolour with god-knows-what over time, and, oh yeah, they burn your asshole if you wear them for too long.
How do I know? Experience.
Go back and read that again. Burning. Asshole.
So when you’re picking out your first butt plug, get something that you can sterilize. Your best option is definitely silicone. Silicone butt plugs usually aren’t too firm and will be more comfortable for you when you’re just starting out.
How to Use a Butt plug
No, it’s not rocket science but here is some advice to make things go more smoothly if you’re trying to play with your rear for the first time:
- Use a really good water based lubrication and use a lot of it. Remember that I recommended silicone butt plugs and that silicone toys should be used with water based lube and not silicone lube. I, and many other people, like the Shibari Personal Lubricant because of its smooth and silky formulation that is long lasting. Avoid any type of lube that numbs you; anal play shouldn’t be painful and if it does hurt, you can injure yourself so you want to make sure that you can feel your butt hole.
- You’re going to want to do a little foreplay with yourself. Massage the entire area and just generally get it relaxed. You can use your fingers if you’re comfortable with that or the tip of the butt plug, whatever feels best. I find that if I distract myself a little bit with clitoral stimulation, I tend to relax more easily.
- When you feel like you’re ready, you can slowly insert your toy. Butt plugs start out small and get wider towards the base so it should go in to start fairly easily. If it starts to feel painful, back off a bit and do some more relaxation foreplay. Also make sure that you’re still lubed up enough! Note that it may feel a little bit uncomfortable as your anal sphincter opens up and might feel like you need to use the washroom but this is normal and will pass as soon as the plug is fully inserted.
- Did you get in all the way in? *High Five!* Wear your butt plug for as long as it feels comfortable. Masturbate, have sex, or go to work! Nobody will know, don’t worry!
- Removal should be treated similarly to insertion in that you will need to relax your sphincter muscles. I find that it feels a little more natural though because our bodies are used to things coming out of our bums. You might want to consider using a bit of lube here too.
- Wash your toy with soap and water at the very least. Silicone can also be boiled or put through the dishwasher so you have lots of options for sterilization. Soap, however, is all antimicrobial so it should be just fine to clean your butt plug with soap and water.
What’s the Best Butt Plug to Get?
Sorry, there is no universal “best butt plug.” There are many factors to consider if you’re looking to buy a butt plug. These things include:
- Do you want a vibrating butt plug?
- What size are you looking for? Do you want a smaller, beginner butt plug or something larger for training purposes?
- Does material matter? Do you prefer a softer silicone or a hard steel or glass butt plug?
- Does shape matter? Do you want a handle instead of a the usual rectangle or circular base?
- Do you have any awesome kinks that would make a themed butt plug (like a dragon or hello kitty) blow your mind?
I’m suspecting that if you’ve made it this far into the article, then you probably have a keen interest in butt plugs and maybe don’t have much experience with them. With this in mind, I’ll suggest a beginner butt plug set for you. Try the Adam and Eve Butt Plug Trainer Kit. This is a set of three silicone butt plugs, small, medium, and large. I think that they’re a really good option for beginners that aren’t sure what size they will want.
Getting a butt plug in the mail that is too big would be scary and getting one that’s too small would be sad. Maybe with this training kit, you can avoid both of those situations.
Final Thoughts on Butt Plugs
I hope you’ve found some of the butt plug tips here helpful. Most people, once they can get over the social stigma of “butt stuff,” find that anal stimulation is extremely pleasurable.It’s terrible that some of us are still feeling like this should be a taboo topic.
Guys, if you stick something up your bum, it doesn’t make you gay.
Girls, if you stick something up your bum, it doesn’t make you slutty or dirty.
Now, the majority of us aren’t in the habit of talking to their friends and co-workers about what anal toys we are currently using but most people would be surprised to hear how common it is for men and women to engage in anal play alone and with a partner. It’s like this ridiculous secret that everyone is doing but nobody is talking about!
So if you’re curious as to what the hype is about, I really recommend trying out a beginner butt plug and seeing if the sensations are pleasurable for you. I personally like the Adam and Eve Butt Plug Trainer Kit because of the three sizing options and don’t forget your Lubricant!
Have fun and be safe!